The healing of unresolved trauma is a commitment and an opening up of deep
wounds, sitting with the pain, the abandonment, the feelings of being unworthy, unlovable and never enough.
This was definitely not the language or the consciousness of our past generation. So many of our parents or forefathers born through wars and post war destruction had a linear focus on survival, feeding children, providing for the families, not much time for self reflection or philosophical unravelling, the depth of the wounds. For some there would have been a religious effort and a turning to God, and this always brings peace when connected to the Holy Spirit and Divine power. However so often conventional religions can bring such fear based teachings which would not have an impact on deep inner child healing.
My Dad would have turned 89 today. He passed away 2.5 years ago after an 8 month awful time of struggle and suffering, having recently lost my Mom, the love of his life and his children, in different cities and different countries. We all tried our best, I spent some time with him as did my sister in his final weeks however with work and family commitments did not allow much longer. My Brother, also in South Africa but living in a different city bore the brunt of it all. I say brunt as my Dad became extremely angry, cantankerous, and really difficult to deal with as a lot of ailing suffering older people can be. I wrote a blog after he passed talking about the soul fragment clearing I did for him and my brother which thankfully seemed to be the gateway to his softening of his heart and rekindling of his faith in God and the saving of his relationship with his son, who was definitely in the direct firing line of my Dad’s unresolved anger and childhood trauma. He told my brother how much he loved him and his peaceful transitioning the next day gave us all a huge sense of relief.
The really sad part is the fact that he carried this throughout most of his life. We have all heard the expression ”hurt people hurt people”. This is not unlike so many families as parents do the best they can with the knowledge they have but so often really mess their children up.
This is where the beauty of Theta healing comes in. I have been so thankful to have been trained in this type of energy healing as we are breaking the generational patterns as healing not only impacts ourselves, but future and past generations.
To find our way back to loving ourselves, to feeling we are whole and complete and enough. We are worthy of an abundant joyful life and to be loved unconditionally, simply because we are who we are: loveable, kind, vulnerable, respectful human beings.
The soul longs for freedom, the soul longs for release and the soul can be damaged and traumatized in this lifetime. I look at my Dads life and I see the trauma, the damage and the deep hurt he suffered. He struggled for a sense of belonging raised in a white neighbourhood of SA but went to a mixed race school and bullied by both ends of the spectrum, then sent away to live with unkind relatives. Apartheid was prevalent in that era and the magnitude of the suffering of some is a very daunting thing.
I am here to talk about the breaking and healing of this generational trauma. I have done a lot of healing work myself and in the work I do in my healing sessions with others, we heal on all these different levels. Present life, past life, on the history level through generational patterns carried through our DNA.
I have seen clearly how my father’s trauma impacted me (as well as my Mom’s) but I’ll save that for another blog. My Dad knew not how to connect emotionally to his children. Our upbringing was harsh and abrupt at times. And yet my Dad was the most fun Dad too. He was a bit of a rebel growing up, a ‘ducktail’ trying to impress my Mom at the time with his “bad boy” image. He loved music, motorbikes, anything military and had a sharp mind, an amazing sense of humour and belly laughs that were so infectious.
He did the best for his family that he could. He worked really hard, ensured we were all educated well and had a good work ethic and great manners. However that inner child never stopped hurting and so now I heal my inner child wounds and know this ripples through generations and touches him too. He deserves peace and love and so do we all.
This is the best gift I can give him. Happy heavenly birthday Dad, we love you!